Love will be so so beautiful at the beginning. But, prolonging the happiness in a relationship matters. After 6 months or 1 year the love would not be the same. We have to undergo lots and lots of struggles.
It’s never easy to handle them, but we have to face them. People say “Our love is not like before” Or “The relationship is not like the one we had in the beginning”, the answer is YES. They will never be the same.
At first, it’s like a fairytale. You focus only on the positive things, good phase of life, fairytale dreams. You both discuss about the beautiful future you wanted to be in, but when reality hits you, its not same.
You live a dream life in the beginning, enjoying the new love/ relationship phase. But after 6 moths – 1 year period, we face lot of problems only because we compare our partner with how they were at the beginning of the relationship.
Life would not be the same at every stages. The other person can also never be the same, there arises the struggle in that relationship.
So I guess following some small things might avoid Problems & Misunderstanding in a Relationship:
The first and foremost thing in a relationship is trust. Problem arises only when there’s no trust. Nothing will workout in a relationship without trust. Before getting into the relationship, think twice.
Firstly you must believe, believe in them, believe in that the relationship would last forever. “Without trust never get into any relationship, and after getting into it never doubt that trust.” Believe that he’s/she’s only for you. Understand and believe in the Trust- that will save your relationship. Without trust the relationship will never work out.
2. Treat them like your Mother/Father
Look them like your Mother/Father. This will increase both love and respect in the relationship. Whatever happens at the end we go back to our parents, so the same rule. Whatever the problem is, whatever the struggle is, end of the day we cannot be without them.
Treating them like your mom/dad will have every emotion in that relationship, love, care, trust etc. How much love and support you’re giving to them, will reflect back with more love. They are the one who is going to travel the whole life with you. So give them so much love. Treat them and love them like anything.
Understand the difference between possessiveness and dominance. They’re completely different. The difference between them is just a single line. Possessiveness in a relationship is absolutely fine.
Small fights, small small arguments they are beautiful in love. They will show how mad you’re in love. They will increase love and respect for eachother. But dominate is when ordering, ‘You should be like this’.
That’s impossible in practical life. Both come from various circumstance of life. Dominance in love won’t workout, you will face only fights/misunderstandings. You have to know you should be truthful to the other person. 200% you must be Honest and loyal.
Possessiveness is beautiful until it turns out to be dominant.
Before getting into fight, make the other person know what’s the reason of that fight. Explain the situation to them. Why this is not good, what you did not like. One of you should analyze the problem, let that person be you.
Why should we always expect the other person to compromise and solve the problem. No one is a big shot / small person in love. Same importance and respect should be given to both. Both are equal. Fights are temporary. One of you should give up somewhere.
Understand fights are temporary, but many are separated permanently. So it’s in your hands to solve, make them understand and to feel comfortable and okay with you.
5. Be Supportive
The most and foremost thing in a relationship is to be supportive. Please support their dreams and goals. They would have imagined their work life or their dreams, be supportive rather than dominating them. Be supportive for everything, do not destroy them.
When you are stopping them from doing it, they hate that. Think twice. Their dreams and their happiness are important or your wish is important?
Understand their struggles and help them by being supportive. Believe they can achieve something. Your support is more important. So give them support and love.
These are the chits in your relationship which you should open and go along with. That would be great, would not it?